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Published January 9, 2026

A Note to Start the Year

This isn't a hype message. It's a reset.

2026 isn't a year to wait and see what happens.

It's a year to decide how you want to live from here on out.

Before real change happens, there's usually a quiet moment.

Not the big announcement.
Not the new plan.
Just the moment you stop going back and forth with yourself.

Not later.
Not when things calm down.
Not when you feel more confident.

Just when you realize you're done delaying.

Why So Many People Get Stuck

Most people aren't lazy.

They're undecided.

They wait for motivation, but motivation comes and goes.

What actually creates movement is making a clear decision.

Not deciding everything.
Just deciding something.

One simple way to do this is to set a date—not for the result, but for the decision.

  • "By this date, I choose."
  • "By this date, I move forward."
  • "By this date, I stop sitting in 'maybe.'"

The Real Reason Decisions Feel Hard

If you keep putting things off, it's usually not a discipline problem.

It's an identity problem.

Many of us were shaped to:

  • keep everyone comfortable
  • stay safe
  • be reasonable
  • avoid disappointing people
  • not stand out too much

From that place, making a clear decision can feel risky.

Your body pulls you back to what feels familiar.

That's not failure.
It's just old conditioning.

Big changes don't start with better habits. They start when you see yourself differently.

No One Is Coming to Choose for You

This part is simple, even if it's uncomfortable:

No one is coming to pick you.
No one needs to give you permission.

If you already know what you're meant to do, waiting for approval won't make it clearer.

Being polite won't build your life.
Being honest will.

Focus Doesn't Mean Burnout

There are times when balance matters.
And there are times when focus matters more.

Focus doesn't mean chaos or overworking.

It just means putting your energy in one direction at a time.

Some people won't understand.
That doesn't mean you're wrong.
It just means you're changing.

You don't need to explain yourself.
You can keep building quietly.

Build a Life That Gives Back to You

Freedom usually comes from work that supports you financially and gives you options.

Not from attention.
Not from looking successful.
Not from being liked.

One hidden limit many people have is believing they can only earn what they've seen before.

Your environment teaches you what feels "normal."

That doesn't mean it's the limit.

Growth Often Means Removing Things

Sometimes progress looks like doing less.

Less noise.
Less performing.
Less holding on to what no longer fits.

More clarity.
More intention.
More trust in yourself.

Pay attention to people who are a little ahead of you.
Learn what works.
Make it your own.

Let your life speak for you.

A Simple Place to Start

If you keep knowing what to do but not moving, it's not because you're unmotivated.

It's usually because the version of you that learned to survive is still making the decisions.

At some point, that version has to step back.

That's what the Identity Reset is about.

Not fixing you.
Not pushing you.
Just helping you see yourself more clearly so decisions stop feeling heavy.

Today, try this:

Take five minutes.

Write down the one decision you've been avoiding.

Then ask yourself:

"What do I believe about myself that makes this feel so hard?"

You don't need to rush the answer.

Clarity comes from honesty, not pressure.

Ready to Reset?

The 48-Hour Identity Reset is designed to help you see yourself more clearly—so decisions stop feeling heavy.

Start Your Reset
Markesha Kirkman

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